Showing posts with label school. Show all posts
Showing posts with label school. Show all posts

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Pajama Day


Yesterday was pajama day at my son's school. He doesn't sleep in pjs, so I had to buy a pair the day before. I chose a pair that were kind of Halloweenish but not too much.

I just have to say if you can wear big horizontal stripes still look that thin you may need to gain some more weight. And this is after the summer's big 20 pound weight gain.

Update: The pajamas came from Target.

Friday, October 24, 2008

9 Year Old Jailed

The 9-year-old was out of control.

She was spitting at her teachers, kicking at an officer and lashing out against efforts to restrain her, Fort Myers police said.

She went from a timeout room to a criminal holding cell Tuesday, and faces two counts of felony battery against her teachers at Royal Palm Exceptional School in Fort Myers.

But the girl's mother, Tarina Williams, said the arrest was extreme, especially considering her daughter has been diagnosed with schizophrenia.

Royal Palm officials said every other alternative at the special-needs school had been exhausted.

At the Department of Children and Families, word of the girl's needs didn't surface until Wednesday. (How come the parents or school hadn't called to try to get the girl some additional help is beyond me.)

After her arrest, the girl, who is not being named by The News-Press because of her age, was back in her Lehigh Acres home with Williams, 32, who said she is at a loss. Her daughter also is diagnosed with obsessive oppositional disorder and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. She was transferred to Royal Palm, Williams said, because staff at her previous school couldn't manage her.

Last year, the county's Juvenile Assessment Center processed 19 children younger than 9 for criminal offenses. This year, there have been nine - and 13 who were 10; 21 who were 11. (Is their a tween crime wave going on in the county, because that seems like an awful lot of arrests.)

Williams' daughter was in school Tuesday after a suspension for a prior battery on a teacher. That teacher decided not to press charges. (Special ed teachers usually want to help children, and this is the proof. ) Two hours after she arrived, Fort Myers police Officer Keith Nicholson was called in.

"(The girl) has thrown chairs at the teacher, threatened to stab the teacher, slapped the phone from her hand as she tried to call for help, kicked the teacher and kicked the door into the teacher," Nicholson reported. "... We have tried a multitude of interventions to no success as (she) continues to escalate her behavior."

DCF spokeswoman Erin Gillespie said none of those interventions involved contacting DCF or Lee Mental Health, the county's core agency for mental health treatment.

After further researching the case, the Fort Myers Police Department has issued the following statement today:

“The girl committed two felonies with victims wanting to pursue charge. There was a long history of attempts to deal with the child through the family and the school. This was the end of the line, and it is a very fine line we walk. Now, she can be mandated by a judge to get the assistance she needs.” (The school also has to factor in the safety of other students and its staff. My child has special needs, but getting those needs met should not interfere with the safety and right to an eduction of other children. I assume that is why a lot of parents resent special needs children. They think we want too much for our children, when all we really want is our kids to get the same education as all the others.)

School district spokesman Joe Donzelli said it's not that simple. Arrest, he said, is the last option in any case for school staff.

"It's not the goal of the school to have a 9-year-old arrested," Donzelli said. "But there are limitations to what the district can or cannot do. A school district cannot do everything for everybody, and in certain situations, you have to bring in outside assistance.

"Unfortunately, it takes more than picking up a phone and calling an agency. Unfortunately, the way the system is set up, you have to get the legal community involved in order to get the dominoes lined up in order to get the child the help they need. (The school doesn't want the child punished. They are trying to get her some help that they can't provide.)"

He said Royal Palm teachers have been trained to educate students with behavioral problems, with a goal of having them return to their original school.

Williams hoped the school would be the best solution for her daughter. The family recently moved from Hendry County, and Williams and her husband have lost three jobs, she said, because they have had to leave work to tend to the girl's school outbursts. Her oldest son also suffers from mental illness, she said. The girl received treatment at a clinic in LaBelle.

Williams said after her daughter was prescribed several medications with no success, doctors began suggesting experimental drugs. Williams didn't agree to that, so treatment ended and the family moved to Lehigh Acres. Williams said she tried to get help from the Ruth Cooper campus of Lee Mental Health, but couldn't get an appointment (Maybe the judge can help her get that appointment. That seems like one of the reasons the school called police, in fact it seems like the primary reason they called).

John Gervickas, children's mental health specialist with DCF, spoke with Williams twice Wednesday after The News-Press inquired about the case. He said an appointment for an assessment is being made. While there was DCF involvement with the family before for a claim of neglect, the girl's mental state was never at issue (Maybe the family should have mentioned it . And why was there a question of neglect.).

Michael McNally, vice president of community relations at Lee Mental Health, said he could not speak specifically on this case, but "given the history and everything else, that would be very surprising to me," McNally said of the girl not receiving help at the agency.

Lee Mental Health serves more adults than children and, while the number of adult patients admitted has increased with the population, he said, treating all children who come hasn't been an issue.

His agency would have had to accept the girl had officer Nicholson chosen to forcibly admit her for mental health care under a law called the Baker Act. But interim Fort Myers Police Chief Doug Baker said there are many stipulations for a Baker Act, especially for children. He was not familiar enough with this case Wednesday to say exactly what happened, but he reiterated the school district's position.

"Sometimes, it is good to get the juvenile court system involved because they can sanction certain types of treatment," Baker said.

"I'm very disappointed with the situation," Williams said. "They're supposed to be qualified to handle her, and they could have restrained her and called me before it ever got to that point. I'm not taking up for her for what she did - that was wrong - but I just don't think jail was the best option. (Her daughter isn't the only student at the school, and the school has to take that into consideration. And what if they had called her, it just would have happened again another day.)"

She wishes there were more services available for parents in her situation.

The state attorney's office will ultimately decide whether the felony charges will stick. ( I doubt they will. The girl is a nine year old with serious mental health issues, she will probably be referred to some program. It is best that the juvenile court system get involved now when help can do some good. Because now is the time to find a treatment program and medication regime that works. Because when she is an adult the courts won't be as forgiving.)

Bill Naylor, director of the Juvenile Assessment Center, said his office often works with the state attorney's office to have cases involving younger juveniles diverted to service programs, especially in cases where mental health is at issue.

"With budget cuts coming from every angle, we have less and less mental health services in the community, and schools are very limited in what they can provide," he said. "That means parents can have a tough time getting services. In the adult system, they have mental health court, similar to drug court. It would be wonderful if we could get the same in the juvenile system, but again, we lack the funding."
Also of Interest:
Church Files Restraining Order Against Autistic Boy
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Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Maybe Your Kid Is Just A Brat

Why do so many parents side with their kids when the teacher reprimands them? Little kids are little liars. So why automatically believe them when they say they didn't do anything wrong, and they don't know why they got in trouble. Don't expect your kid to do well in school if every time they do something wrong, you go yell at the teacher.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Hair Fairies



Lice is a common problem among school aged children. It's not a common of kids being dirty because lice actually like clean hair best. But if your kid has lice and you live in San Francisco, Chicago, Los Angeles, or Manhattan you can pay someone else to pick the lice out of his hair. The Hair Fairies will treat the lice in a three step process that takes up to 10 days. It may sound like a lot of time, but if you don't get out of all the nits you'll be treating the child again in no time at all.
And if you don't live where they can do the actual work they sell the products for you to do it at home. And even better, a prevention kit.
Also of Interest:
Original Sprouts Children & Baby Hair Gel
Method Baby & Children

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Scholastic Bookfairs Pulling Plug On Bratz

The largest distributor of children's books to Canadian schools has decided to yank all Bratz books from its roster after parents and psychologists complained that the controversial dolls promoted "precocious sexuality."

Scholastic Inc. distributes its products through school-based book fairs and clubs, selling books to students and teachers at discounted prices. But after a persuasive North American campaign spearheaded by the Boston-based Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood, the company has relented and pulled books and products featuring the popular Bratz dolls.
In a statement yesterday, Scholastic declined to comment on Bratz books, saying "the books we offer have been selected by an experienced team of editors who consult with our teacher and librarian advisors and review thousands of titles from all publishers.

"Our goal has been and continues to be to provide quality, affordable books that meet the wide range of reading levels and interests of today's students and help every child develop a love of reading."

The Bratz book line is a spinoff of MGA Entertainment Inc.'s top-selling fashion dolls, which have gained notoriety for their skimpy wardrobe of miniskirts, high-heel boots and feather boas.

A New Yorker article about the powerhouse of marketing behind the brand described the appearance of the dolls as being akin to "kept girls," "pole dancers on their way to work at a gentlemen's club," and, most critically, wearing "the sly, dozy expression of a party girl after one too many mojitos."

The brand has become so popular that it has spun off into a full product line. In addition to books such as Lil' Bratz Dancin' Divas and Lil' Bratz Catwalk, Scholastic last year also offered the Bratz:

Rock Angelz computer game so that girls can create their own fashion magazine and the Bratz Fashion Designer stencil kit for elementary students to design "the perfect purse."

Since February, 2007, Scholastic and its Canadian subsidiary received more than 5,000 e-mails as part of the anti-Bratz campaign.


"We're just really thrilled and it really attests to the power of people working together to try and make change," said campaign co-ordinator Susan Linn.

"The Bratz are a highly sexualized brand and when a brand is marketed in a school, it has that school's endorsement. Essentially, schools were saying to their students, 'This is a good way to portray girls, these are models that you should strive for.' "

Ms. Linn, a psychologist and author of The Case for Make-believe: Saving Play in a Commercialized World, said she was particularly troubled with Scholastic's apparent tacit endorsement of the Bratz brand.

"Scholastic has such a stellar reputation with parents and with teachers and for Scholastic to be supporting and promoting this kind of sexualization, it was very troubling."

Edmonton mother Wendy Boyko was among the thousands who flooded Scholastic with their objection to Bratz books for sale in schools. She said she's "very, very impressed" by the book distributor's decision.


"For me, my main concern was just the appearance, the makeup and the clothing being more suggestive than necessary ... and targeting that to little girls who don't need to be looking like that," said Ms. Boyko, whose daughters are ages five and eight.

MGA Entertainment, based in California, was not available to comment.

It's about time. Take a gander at a picture of a porn star and then at a Bratz doll. The look is very similar: extensions, puffy lips, too much makeup, and too small clothes. But Scholastic needs to take a look at their whole book line. I volunteer at our school's bookfair every year, and there are almost no traditional books to be found.
I've been to the seminar that they have for the people who run the bookfairs, and asked about it. They gave me the giving the kids books they actually want to read excuse too. Kids are kids and sometimes they need adults to tell them what they want. Isn't that what advertising is for.
Also of Interest:
Scholastic Bookfairs
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Monday, August 25, 2008

Products I'm Loving 25 August



My son's Chrome backpack. I've blogged about it before. But since he is returning to school today I thought I would write about how it stood up to wear and tear. This thing is brilliant. There is no wear at the bottom, the seams are all still strong, and it is in like new condition. The fact that his backpack was able to hold six high school text books without falling apart is wonderful. And it holds a ton of other stuff with room left over. I really think this will be his last backpack, unless I buy a smaller one. Because the thing is super sized. So if you buy one, buy it a size smaller, the Ranchero. $120-$160.
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ChicoBags
Chrome Backpack
Computer Sleeve

Monday, June 16, 2008

Autism Learning Games on Etsy



Designed to prepare autistic children for common tasks, these charts and booklets would be great for all small children. I especially like the what hurts and school lunch charts. Little kids aren't the greatest at telling parents what hurts. They just come and tell you, "I don't feel good." Then you have to play twenty questions. And can you imagine being five and going to the cafeteria for the first time. We rarely prepare them for that when we explain what happens at school.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Klean Kanteen



Klean Kanteen will not be accepting orders on their stainless steel water bottles for the next week or so. I wanted to order a couple, instead of sending plastic water bottles to school with my boys. I really hate the fact the school encourages them to just trash the bottles. At home we use them to automatically water plants, but they never bring the bottles back home. But the BPA hoopla has increased demand for the Klean Kanteen. They also sell insulated holders to keep the water cool, which is nice because of all the 100 degree plus days.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

TrackerPal


Do you have a problem teenager that is completely out of control. This may just be your answer. Track them like they are criminals. I looked at a lot of personal GPS systems when my oldest was starting high school. He has autism and in the seventh grade his school lost him. Actually lost him, as in call out the sheriff helicopter to look for him.I was looking for something like this, but smaller. But if you're having problems with your kid this may work for you. It has two things going for it, the embarrassment factor of having a tracking anklet and you get to know where your kid is at.They will even alert you if your child is somewhere he shouldn't be. You have to buy the anklet, pay $150 enrollment fee, and about $13 a day. But it is probably cheaper than rehab, and could prevent a bunch a Miley Cyrus like moments.

Friday, April 11, 2008


Some mornings I feel like my youngest son's Secret Service agent than mom. I'm always at least five feet behind him, in a dark coat with ear phones. And he doesn't even glance back.

Monday, March 31, 2008

Back To School

My boys are going back to school after Easter vacation today. We didn't do anything. I had plans but got sick after taking my youngest to Children's Hospital. But now it's time for them to go back to school, and I don't want them to go. They may be extremely noisy, but the chaos is so much better than the rush getting to and from school and activities. Well at least summer vacation will start soon.

Sunday, March 2, 2008

I've Got the High School Blues

Every time my oldest goes to a new school it's a struggle because his autism is very high functioning. They have to figure out how to accommodate his poor social skills while not limiting his academic options. It didn't go well when he went to middle school. In fact, it went so badly that his elementary school changed the way it prepares students to go to middle school. First, we have to make sure that the school understands that college is the goal. Yes, he is a minority child with autism. But I have a degree and everyone in his father's family has them. He will be the third generation to attend university. College at this point isn't a goal, it's an expectation. I have been saving for college since he was born. Which leads to the second thing we have to show the school. We have more than enough money for long, drawn out litigation. My child is entitled to the same education that everybody else is getting. No better, no worse. And when I drop him off in the morning, I expect the school to make sure that bullying doesn't interfere with that education. I thought that the high school understood that, but it seems that tomorrow I will have to remind them of a few things. This mother has some bullying of her own to do.

Saturday, March 1, 2008

Things My Son Lost This Week

Monday : He forgot to take his medication. Just as we were pulling into the school, my Grandmother called and we had to turn around and go back home.

Thursday: He forgot to tell me that it was a minimum day. What am I a mind reader?

Friday: He forgot his math notebook at home. And to tell me that he fell into the school swimming pool. Somebody should have called. Didn't his aide notice that he was soaking wet most of the day? He has PE in the morning, it was 70 degrees, and he was still wet when I picked him up. I will be paying a surprise visit to the school Monday morning. Then he forgot to take his Nintendo DS out to his Grandpa's house.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Not Needed So Much


My wee boy doesn't need me so much anymore. He grabs his coat, glasses, backpack, and lunch and dashes out the door every morning. Then he proceeds to walk as quickly as possible so that he doesn't have to be seen with Mommy. This is the view I see every morning.

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Things My Son Lost This Week

Wednesday- His math book. We had to use Google to find out how to work a problem. I'm going to have to go back to take some math classes sooner or later. A few credits at the JC would be cheaper than a tutor.

Thursday- His earth science assignment.

All in all, it was a good week.

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Things My Son Lost This Week

My oldest son has high functioning autism. And sometimes it is like he is in his own world. I've had to replace his lock for his locker four times this year because he has lost the key. Here is a list of things he forgot or lost for school last week.

Monday- He forgot his binder at home. The school called because he had to have it for an English project. At least it wasn't lost. A couple of weeks ago he lost his binder.

Tuesday- He lost his lunch money. His aide loaned him lunch money.

Thursday- He lost his PE clothes. Why he was bringing his PE clothes home in the middle of the week is a great mystery, he never brings them home on weekends to be washed. We had to go before school and buy new ones. It took almost a half hour. His little brother was almost late to school. I made him pay for the replacements. And later he got caught on a door handle and ripped his coat.

Luckily it was only a four day week.